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[astralera]

I haven't asked for details yet, as I was too busy chewing him out for going behind my back that way.

I was so angry with him when I found out what he did that my voice came back, then promptly disappeared because I yelled loud enough it hurt my throat. (I healed it better.) [ Gold star sticker + some sparkles here. ]

I'll be certain to ask him later, when I help him create the models of his monster forms. He is almost done the first form, but the other will require much more time.

Easier for who?

I was attempting to offer you my help if you both want and need it, just as you have been helping me. Not out of misplaced responsibility or worry, but because I know it's hard.

It is an open offer, and will be available indefinitely.

[ She thinks of something else she wanted to add, but the letter has already been sent.

She waits five minutes, then texts: ]

ACCOUNTABILIBUDDIES.
☆ヾ(*´・∀・)ﾉヾ(・∀・`*)ﾉ☆

That is the word for what I was offering in the letter I last sent.

I did not mean to all caps there but I am keeping it.

[carbungle]

Don't wait too long with Hades, but OK.

Easier for everyone. Or less painful. Whatever sounds better.

I'll keep the offer in mind. Maybe someday. Still too close to the problem I think.

Never heard of "accountabilibuddy", though.

[astralera]

I think that, maybe, it isn't always meant to be easy, or painless. It takes pain to grow, doesn't it? Not a lot, but enough to ache. Maybe it's different for other people though.

It is "accountability buddies". If there is something you wish to accomplish that requires long-term effort, and someone else also seeks to accomplish something — usually lifestyle changes — they can hold each other accountable for their progress. Like a coach, or teammate, but 'accountabilibuddy' sounds more fun.


I have some literature on a technique you may find helpful. It's called cognitive restructuring. I am working on it right now, and I think it's helping me. It is, essentially, training yourself how to identify when your thoughts are being dumb, and then what to do about it.

[carbungle]

Probably depends on the person, yeah. The one talking and the one listening. Other people have it worse, in the long run it doesn't matter... that's just how it is sometimes. But like I said, I'm sorting through it, so it's okay.

It's a cute concept. I don't know if I can be accountable for anyone else, though, at least right now. I'll think about it.

You've got books on this sort of thing?

[astralera]

Other people have it worse. In the end my pain doesn't matter, because it doesn't change my duty. I have to be strong because everyone is depending on me. To show weakness will make them lose hope, and my people need that hope to survive.


I try to think instead about how I cannot help them if I don't take care of myself. I don't deserve less than they do.


I have sent a tomestone with this letter. Look through the files it contains. I think it will help.

[carbungle]

Easier to say than believe if it's not what you've been told. I get it, though.

Thanks for the info, I'll have a look when I can.

[astralera]

At home it was always simple. Here, it's a struggle. But that is life, I suppose.

I hope you find it useful.

[carbungle]

[His response is through text- a simple thumbs-up emote.]